4 Tips to Help You Come to Terms with Aging ... Because if you are 40 then it’s not possible you look 20! I know because I loss my son in November after a 5 1/2 year battle with StageIV colon cancer. You may even want to consider a close crop. It's going to happen. The grieving process. I first want to say that I am so sorry for your loss. Masks are brittle. When he passed, it was not peaceful because he was in excruciating pain. Stop hiding, take a look and see what's coming. Other than that if you're wealthy you could go for the surgery option. There is a moment, and it happens to all aging women, where you understand that you've lost the race. Masks are fake. It took a conscious, concerted effort to feel more confident about my looks. If you settle into your new skin you'll probably find you start to look better in your own eyes and you'll naturally come across better to others. Especially after children. To come to terms with feeling ugly, start by confronting beauty standards that may be warping the way you see yourself. ... For your beauty to be ambushed, brutalized, and eventually completely destroyed by the aging process. But coming to terms with the inevitability of death can help teach us to live more fully in the here and now. Whatever the cause of your grief, though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can ease your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on with your life. It's a loss of control. Or you could get a lot of plastic surgery, and everyone can feel sorry for you, because now you're the woman who got a lot of plastic surgery. If your biggest fear is getting older, the best thing that can happen to you is getting older. Grieving is a highly individual experience; there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. Get a shorter haircut before you start treatment — it will make your hair look thicker and may help hair loss seem less noticeable to others later on. When your body changes after children, it’s … The people on TV and in magazines aren't perfect in real life -- the images you see are manipulated and you shouldn't judge your own beauty by those standards! Each stage of your journey will be completely different, and as you wander through your grief, emotions will come and go. It’s been nearly 11 years since my father died (I was 18 when it happened), so I think I can safely say I’ve been through it all; the shock, the sadness, the anger, the guilt, and, eventually, the acceptance. It surely isn't the picture we have of our mothers or grandmothers. After all, what does 50 really look like today? From our perspective, 50, 60 and older can look great if you take off your mask and let your face grow into becoming who you are. He fought a hart battle and I cried for all those years. 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